When I first began studying mediumship in my early 20s, I was afraid of opening up to Spirit.
I figured I had good reason to be. As a child, I was afraid of the dark and of the things I saw that other people didn’t. I remember seeing glowing green eyes in my bedroom at night on more than one occasion and seeing the shadow of someone outside my bedroom door (it was a translucent glass door). For many years, I had an irrational fear of looking at myself in the mirror at night because I was certain I’d see myself as a skeleton.
As I grew older, I realized I was an empath and picked up other people’s emotions and thoughts. I’d be in an old building and get hit with the energy of the people who’d been there before like a scene out of a movie, especially if a highly emotional event took place. Or I’d buy used clothing and wear it without washing it first and pick up on the emotional energy of the people who’d owned it previously. Those were some messy and uncomfortable experiences. I eventually learned to shield myself and filter what came in, but it was an energy-consuming process.
So, while I wanted to understand and develop my gifts, I wasn’t big on the idea of opening myself up to more communication from Spirit if I didn’t know what it was that was going to come through.
The unknown can be scary.
Fortunately, one of the first things I learned right at the beginning of my mediumship develoment is something that solved my problem and took away all fear.
Set your intention: Ask for your highest and best good.
Whenever you meditate and open yourself up to communication from Spirit, ask for your highest good, and only that, to come through.
The result: no bogeymen, no dark spirits, nothing that can harm you or scare you can come through to you.
It sounds almost too simple, but it works.
When you set your intention, what you’re doing is setting your boundaries. (You can read more about boundaries here.) And, when you work with energy, it has to follow your word and your intention. So if you say, “Only my highest good, please,” then that’s all that come in. Your word is law.
What I love about this approach is that it doesn’t take energy to maintain, it’s absolute, and it allows you to feel safe and comfortable in opening up to Spirit. Because, if you know that you’ll receive only good, then you can relax and begin to trust the experience.
Trust is a huge part of developing your intuitive and mediumship abilities — trusting your connection with Spirit, trusting yourself and trusting in the process of unfolding.
So take a deep breath and set your intention to receive your highest good, knowing it means that everything you get from Spirit will be from the light and will come through love. You are safe, you are loved, and all is well.
For anyone who’s sensitive — to energy, to emotions, to the vibe of the world — these last few months have been pretty rough. When you’re an empath and you absorb the energy and emotions of the people around you, it can be easy to get swept away in a tide of feeling, or feel static-y and unfocused.
You can’t always change what’s going on in your external life — how the people around you act, what decisions your government officials make or what stressful events happen. But you can take charge of how you respond to it. Realize that a lot of the emotional overwhelm you feel isn’t really yours. It may be triggering your emotions, but much of it doesn’t actually come from you. If you can sense someone’s mood or energy by looking at their picture, getting a text or receiving an email, you’re empathic and picking up their emotional energy. Multiple that by all the people you connect with via social media and it can easily knock you off your emotional center.
The earlier you notice that you’re being affected by the energy of the people around you, the easier it is to maintain your stability and center. Here are some of the things you might be feeling if you’re taking an empathic hit that’s bigger than you can deal with:
Feeling wired, but unfocused
Feeling compelled to keep reading news or checking social media
Having difficulty sleeping or getting going in the morning
Using distractions such as alcohol, illicit and prescription drugs to numb yourself
Any of those sound familiar?
If so, it’s OK. There are things you can do to help yourself get centered again and feeling better.
Go for a walk
Often, when you feel overwhelmed, you become stuck. So put on some shoes and get outside. Walk. It doesn’t have to be fast or far, but the forward movement of your body changes things inside your brain. It helps you release stuck thoughts and emotion.
Walking is a great way to ground yourself and to let go of emotional baggage that isn’t yours.
Take a shower
The shower is a great place to meditate. Let the warm water flow over you, really feel yourself in your body, and release everything that isn’t yours and doesn’t serve you. Breathe. Let your mind relax. Enjoy the sensation of the water on your skin.
Consciously release it to Spirit
When I realize I’m taking on the emotions of the world, especially the ones that go down the road of fear and anxiety, I take a step back for a moment and acknowledge what’s happening. Then I say, “Hey, Spirit, if it’s not mine, I don’t want it.”
I let it go. I let it release from me.
Spend time in nature
You might be able to combine this with going for a walk. If not, go outside and hug a tree. Sit in your yard or local park and connect with nature. Trees are an excellent way to ground out energy and reconnect with the Earth. Their roots go deep into the Earth and their branches raise up into the sky. Plus, trees can handle whatever you’ve got to give them.
If you’re not much of a tree hugger, then connect in with the energy of the plants around you.
Whatever form of meditation works for you, do it. Spend some time, however much you can give it, in meditation. It’ll help you get grounded and centered and connected to your inner self and Spirit. Whether you prefer mindfulness meditation, guided meditation, channeling meditation, meditation where you go up and out of your body to connect with Spirit, meditation where you bring the presence of Spirit into your own body, it doesn’t matter. It’ll help.
Even if you’re feeling too anxious or off-center to meditate, give yourself the grace of one minute. Here’s what you do:
Close your eyes.
Breathe in, filling your lungs, allowing your chest to expand. In your head, count 1.
Breathe out. Allow your chest and stomach to move back towards your spine. In your head, count 2.
Breathe in again. Let your breath fill your entire abdomen. In your head, count 3.
Breathe out. Exhale. Count 4.
Open your eyes. You’re done. You gave yourself 1 minute of presence and allowed your fight, flight or freeze response to calm down a notch, you lowered your blood pressure and reduced your heart rate.
Repeat as needed.
Reach out to people
Humans are social creatures. We need others.
When my husband was going through the end of his last relationship, we spent a lot of time talking and afterward, he’d tell me, “You make me feel human again.” What he meant was that our human connection helped him feel grounded and heard, it brought him back into the present and helped him focus on how he felt and what steps he could take to feel in control of his life again.
Find the people in your life that help you feel human (even as you’re a spiritual being having a human experience) and reach out to them. Do that physically, in person, if you can. Hug them. Go for a walk. Talk. Have tea (I’m English, it’s always tea for me). Let yourself be reminded that you’re not alone.
Get enough sleep
Sleep is an essential thing. Do what you can to ensure you get as many hours of uninterrupted sleep as you need each night.
I realize there are many reasons this isn’t always a doable thing (being a parent of young children, for instance). But do what you can. Allow yourself to rest.
Remember that self-care isn’t selfish. You must take care of yourself in order to be here, in this body, and function in this life. Without that, you can’t share the gifts you’ve brought into this lifetime. And we need your gifts, your love, your sensitivity now, as much as ever before.
One of the questions I’m asked most often in terms of symbols and signs from Spirit is: How do you know if it’s real or if it’s your imagination?
There are two markers I’ve found that come into play when a symbol is from Spirit: repetition and a feeling of divine connection.
If there is a symbol that you see multiple times, especially when you think of a specific loved one or situation, then that’s a sign from Spirit. Sometimes it can be obvious: you’ve been thinking about learning a new skill or taking a class and two different people mention that skill and then you happen to read an article about it as well, all within days of each other.’
A feeling of connection with the divine
The other marker is a feeling of divine connection. There’s a feeling that happens within you when a certain symbol comes into your experience that only happens when the symbol is from Spirit. For instance, my mother often comes through with the symbol of a rose—either in the form of a physical rose or the scent of one. However, I see roses all the time. I probably see dozens of roses every single day—there are several bushes growing in my garden, plus all the ones I drive by in the car or see on TV as well as a silk arrangement I have on my piano. But I don’t think of my mother or feel her energy every time I walk down my front walk to the car. At certain times, my attention will be drawn to a certain rose, or I’ll get a waft of rose scent on the air and, at the same time, I will think of her, see her smile or feel her warmth and love. That’s when it’s a true connection with Spirit.
Most of all, trust yourself. Trust your intuition and your inner knowing. If it feels like a connection, then it is.
Whenever the energy in your home starts to feel heavy or uncomfortable, it’s time to give your space a good cleansing.
That’s not the only time that cleansing can helpful, though. Other times to cleanse your space include:
Whenever you move into a new space, whether it’s a new house or office
Someone moves in or out of the space
After an illness
After you buy an antique or secondhand item
After cleaning up or decluttering
Cleansing dissipates the residual energy left behind by other people, and can even release your own emotional static.
Your cleansing tools
Cleansing isn’t difficult or complicated. And you only need a few tools to do it. You can use a sage smudge stick, palo santo or sweetgrass. You can also use Tibetan chimes, a singing bowl or a recording of high vibration music.
Cleansing with sage, sweetgrass or palo santo
Light the end of the sage smudge stick, sweet grass braid or stick of palo santo and allow it to burn just long enough to get it lit. Then blow it out and allow it to smoke. Hold a dish or plate (or abalone shell) underneath it as you walk around your space, allowing smoke to go into each corner of each room. I also open up closets, go behind the shower curtain and allow the cleansing smoke to go in every nook and cranny.
I say a prayer or blessing for the space as I do this, asking for the highest and best good for the space and its occupants.
I also like to go around the windows and doors, with the intent of creating protection for the space, knowing that only those who are of good intent can enter.
If there are areas of the space where the energy feels stuck or especially heavy, you may notice the smudge stick, braid or palo santo begin to sputter or even go out entirely. If that happens, relight it, blow on it (watch for sparks!) and ask for the energy to release. You can also send love energy out as well to help dissipate anything that’s stuck or hanging on, or visualize white light filling the space.
Cleansing with sound
I also like to use Tibetan chimes as a way of raising and clearing the vibration. These high frequency sounds also dissipate negative or stuck energy.
Walk around the space, ringing the chimes and allowing the sound waves to penetrate all the corners of each room. Open up the closet and cupboard doors, get in all the areas of your home or office.
If you don’t have chimes, you can play a singing bowl or even play high vibration music or beat a drum.
Setting your intent
The action of the smudge stick or sound is an important part of the cleansing process. So is your intent. Know that, when you ask Spirit for your highest good, that’s exactly what you get, and only that.
You can begin by smudging yourself with sage, sweetgrass or palo santo smoke. You can either do this yourself or ask a friend to cleanse you. Allow the smoke to go in front of you, behind you, to the right and left of you, above and below you. You may also want to repeat this prayer:
A Smudging Prayer
May my hands be cleansed, that they create beautiful things.
May my feet be cleansed, that they might take you where you most need to be.
May my heart be cleansed, that I might hear its messages clearly.
May my throat be cleansed, that I might speak rightly when words are needed.
May my eyes be cleansed, that I might see the signs and wonders of the world.
May I and this space be washed clean by the smoke of these fragrant plants.
And may that same smoke carry our prayers, spiraling, to the heavens.
Then you’ll be ready to go around your space. As you ask for your home or office to be cleared of heavy or negative energy, know that is what is happening.
I find cleansing rituals to be calm and energizing. You’ll feel better afterward and the space in which you live and work will feel better, quieter and more vibrant as well.
Do you ever feel like there’s a Spirit presence in your house? Are there areas of your home that your kids or animals avoid, especially at night?
Sometimes folks in Spirit do hang around the homes of people they aren’t related to. There are several reasons for this, but they’re all related to the desire to communicate with us in the physical world and to fully transition into Spirit and find peace.
Sometimes, when people die, they aren’t able to transition fully into Spirit. This can happen for a variety of reasons:
They were very attached to this life, especially if they are parents of young children
They were under the influence of drugs or alcohol when they died
They were of a generally lower vibration in this life
They died violently
People get stuck between the earth plane and Spirit world because they don’t realize that they can come back and connect with people here once they have fully transitioned into Spirit. This is due to confusion and fear.
People who have properly transitioned into Spirit can also come to visit, even if they’re not your family. This can happen if they have unfinished business of some kind, or a message they want to get across, but don’t know how to communicate with their loved one directly (or that loved one is in such a state of grief they’re not able to get through).
You’re like a lightbulb
If you’re sensing Spirit in your home, it’s because you have the gift of mediumship to a greater or lesser extent. You are, essentially, a lightbulb, shining brightly. Folks in Spirit are attracted to the light. We’re all trying to move upwards in our vibration whether we know it or not, and people in Spirit are no different.
Spirit comes to your home because they see your light. I imagine it like a bright light above your house, essentially telling people in Spirit: You can be heard here. It’s a beacon.
Dealing with ghosts
Whatever you want to call them, ghosts, earthbound spirits, or just spirits, there are things you can do to deal with them in your house, especially if you find the experience unpleasant.
Learn how to turn off your light
When it comes to being open to communication from Spirit, you have free will. You don’t have to let people in Spirit or earthbound spirits talk to you if you don’t want to hear from them. You can learn how to intentionally open and close yourself to communication from Spirit in my book, Led by Light, how to develop your intuitive mediumship abilities.
Knowing how to close yourself to communication from Spirit doesn’t mean you’re not a medium anymore or won’t ever receive information. It gives you control on receiving communication when and how you want to.
Help them transition into Spirit
If you feel that there’s an earthbound spirit in your home, you can help them transition into Spirit. (More on how to do this in a future blog post.) Essentially, you send them love.
Do you remember the TV series, Ghost Whisperer? It’s a lot like that, although without the visual effects. The light of Spirit doesn’t visibly shine down into your living room but, on an energetic level, that’s what happens.
Cleanse your home
You can also cleanse the energy in your home and raise its vibration while protecting your space and claiming it as your own.
Get a smudge stick and go around your home (with it lit), going into each corner of each room, saying a blessing or prayer asking for your home to be protected and filled with light energy.
You can also ring chimes, such as Tibetan chimes, bells or play a crystal bowl, to raise the vibration in each room. If you don’t have chimes or bells, you can use an audio recording.
Ask them to leave
It’s your home, you decide who lives there and hangs out in it. Do you let people you don’t like come over and hang out and bother you? Hopefully not. You get to do the same with the energy in your home.
Set your boundaries. Ask for your highest good and only that. You have more power than you realize.
Ask for help
If it feels like the above methods just aren’t quite working for you, call on your Spirit guides for help. You can also call on a professional medium or intuitive for help. I occasionally perform home cleansings and help people fully transition into Spirit when they’re stuck in people’s’ homes. Due to the individual nature of such home visits, you’ll need to get in touch with me directly (rather than book a session through my website).
Here’s the most important takeaway: even if there’s an energy around your home that feels negative or uncomfortable, know that that being wants to be at peace and is simply trying to get there in the way that they know how. They’re trying to get your attention. And you’re ultimately in control of your experience.
One of the things I really like about loving kindness meditation is its practice of compassion. You need compassion—for others and for yourself.
Sit in your usual meditation posture. Take three deep breaths, fully inhaling and exhaling. If you like, you can let out your exhales with a big sigh, an audible “aahhhhh!”
Allow your heart center to open. You can do this by visualizing warm white or pink light enveloping the area around your chest, seeping in and energizing your heart. Or you can think of a loved one or anything that makes your heart come alive: a pile of puppies with big eyes playing together, a child in a meadow of flowers, whatever works for you.
Visualize yourself. You can see yourself as a baby or young child or as you are today, however you’re able to hold an image of yourself with compassion.
Now say this mantra (in your head or aloud):
May I be filled with lovingkindness
May I be healthy and well
May I be safe in all ways
May I be happy and at ease
Hold the feeling of love and compassion for yourself for a few breaths. You can repeat the mantra several times if you want or you can move on.
Now picture someone you love and are close to. Bring the feeling of them into your heart and mind and hold them there.
Say the mantra with them in mind:
May you be filled with lovingkindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease
Now bring to mind someone you feel neutral about, perhaps someone you don’t know all that well, such as your mail carrier or the person who rings up your groceries at the store.
Visualize them and hold them in your heart and repeat the mantra again:
May you be filled with lovingkindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease
Next, bring to your mind and heart someone you dislike or have a difficult relationship with, either in the past or present. It’s OK if it feels difficult to hold them in a loving way and to repeat the mantra for them. Allow yourself to experience the feelings of discomfort you feel.
Repeat the mantra to them:
May you be filled with lovingkindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease
Now move your awareness to your whole family as well as your neighborhood and/or local community. Include yourself as well and say the mantra again:
May we be filled with lovingkindness
May we be healthy and well
May we be safe in all ways
May we be happy and at ease
Finally, zoom out in your consciousness and envelope the entire globe in your mind’s eye, holding the Earth in your heart and repeat the mantra one last time:
May we be filled with lovingkindness
May we be healthy and well
May we be safe in all ways
May we be happy and at ease
Here’s a shorthand version of who you picture in each mantra:
So you’ve decided to schedule an intuitive mediumship session. You’re excited/nervous/terrified/overjoyed (pick one) to be about to connect with loved ones in Spirit and guidance for your highest good. You want it to go well. You want it to be worth your time, money and energy.
Is there anything you can do to help that happen? It turns out, there is. Especially if you’re getting a reading with me. I’ve written about tips for a successful reading before, but here are some more.
Sleep well the night before
If you take care of yourself and are well-rested and feeling good, it’s easier for me to connect in with Spirit and your higher self. Your vibration is higher and clearer and there’s less work for me to do on my part to bridge the gap between where you are and what’s going on with you and the connection with Spirit.
I don’t mind working hard, but the reason this is helpful for your reading is because it helps me get clearer and more precise information for you.
Know what you want
I offer a variety of information during intuitive mediumship readings. It’s helpful to know what you’re looking for. Do you want information on your career, relationship, kids, or moving house or town or state? Do you want to know about your spiritual path and to connect with your guides? Do you want to talk to loved ones in Spirit? I can connect with information from Spirit in all of these areas, so it’s helpful to know what you’re looking for.
If there are certain people you want to connect with in Spirit, decide beforehand and let me know. This is helpful for a number of reasons. First, before you arrive, I connect in with your energy and get a sense of who’s around you (and let them know if they want to come through they need to get their act together and be prepared to show up). If you already know who you want to talk to, then you and me both putting it out there is more likely to get their attention.
Secondly, if you don’t have anyone in mind, I’m going to bring through whoever is loudest and has something to say. That may not be someone you want to hear from. Or not who you want to hear from the most. So while I’m picking up on your sister, for example, you’re sitting there thinking, “Where’s my Dad? I want to hear from my Dad?” That means you miss out on the message you’re getting from your sister.
Knowing who you want to connect with and telling me doesn’t guarantee a connection. But it usually happens.
Make a list
Similarly, if there are issues in your life you’d like to receive guidance on, write them down. It may sound weird to have a list of questions that you come in with, but it’s helpful for me to focus in on what’s most important to you.
I’ve had readings where I’ve gone down a long list of questions, taking care of each item in turn, based on the intuitive energy and information I connect with.
I always ask to receive information for your highest and best good. And what I get may be for your highest good — but it may not be something you’re even considering right now at this point in your life. I want my readings to be helpful and useful to you in your life. I want you to be able to take away something you can work with and act on if needed.
Also, don’t be embarrassed or wonder if what you want to know about is weird. I’ve been asked to bring through information on pretty much everything at this point. My readings are safe, sacred, non-judgmental spaces.
Talk to me
I think of readings as a conversation between you, me and Spirit. Chime in. Offer information and confirmation if it feels right to do so. Ask for clarification if you don’t understand. It not only helps connect the energy circuit, but it allows me to know if I’m on the right track or if I need to get more from Spirit to give you clearer information.
I go into each reading asking to be an open medium for you, in sincerity and honesty. While occasionally I have clients who want me to prove something to them — the existence of life after death, that I can connect with a specific loved one, that I can accurately predict the future — I’m not in this to prove anything to anyone. My goal is to help you, through Spirit, to the best of my ability.
You’re welcome to take notes during your reading. You can even record it if you’d like. This helps you remember things later that you’d otherwise forget. It’s hard to remember everything someone says for 30 to 60 minutes. I can cover a lot of ground in that time.
Having notes or a recording also gives you time to recall a loved one in Spirit you didn’t quite figure out during the reading itself or for the meaning of messages or symbols to become clear. There may be information that comes through during your reading that doesn’t make sense at the time that will either come to pass or somehow show up in your life a few days or even weeks later.
Readings are supposed to feel good and be useful. Sometimes you cry, and that’s OK, too. The more open you can be to the experience, the easier it is for me to bring through useful information for you.
My goal is always to help you on your path in life. That’s what I think mediumship and intuition are here for — to bring us healing, to connect us with our divine self and with Spirit, and to help us move forward in our lives.
Everything is made up of energy vibrating at its own unique frequency. Because of this, everything has an aura, which is the potentially visible vibration of all things. It’s possible to learn to become aware of and to see auras.
What is an aura?
the distinctive atmosphere or quality that seems to surround and be generated by a person, thing, or place.
Everything has a certain amount of auric energy. But it’s usually easier to see or sense the auras of growing living things: people, pets and plants. Rocks have auras, too, but they don’t change much and we usually sense them as being part of the rock. (This is related to clairsentience and reading the energy of people, places and objects.)
What do auras look like?
Auras are usually described as bands of energy or color around a person. Sometimes they are depicted as halos around the heads of saints or angelic beings. They can be seen or sensed as a band or layer close to the person or other living thing, with successive bands of energy further away. Some people believe these relate to our different energy bodies (etheric, emotional, mental, astral, celestial, etc.).
Auras can be seen physically, sensed intuitively/psychically, or both.
What are auras made of?
Auras are made of electromagnetic energy, partly composed of electromagnetic radiation, spanning from microwave to infrared to UV light.
The difference between auras and after images
When you look at something for a while, then close or your eyes or look away, you can often see an after image. Auras aren’t after images. After images are the same size and shape as the original image. If you’re seeing the aura as well, it’ll be the object surrounded by its aura, which will be larger than the original image.
After images also don’t have color associated with them, while auras do. Auras can appear to look a lot light after images, but they aren’t the same.
How to see auras
Being able to see auras is related to clairvoyance and your third-eye. You can practice looking at the aura of any living thing, but it’s often fun to try it with friends (plus they’re more likely to sit still longer than your pets or small children).
Put up a white or light colored background behind where the subject is going to stand or sit. You can use a bed sheet or a plain wall.
Choose a spot on the person — either slightly to one side or the middle of their forehead. Keep your eyes on that spot.
Allow your eyes to relax. While you continue looking at the same spot, also use your peripheral vision to notice the background around the person.
You may see their aura as wavy lines, similar to heat waves on a hot day, or as a color or several colors, or as an energy field. It may appear suddenly or take several minutes to build up. You may also sense a color rather than see one.
I did an exercise once with my mediumship students where we “smelled” the color of each others’ auras. (I have synesthesia so the idea made sense to me.) During meditation, we connected in with each person in turned and asked for a scent and a color.
It was a hugely successful circle with many people getting the same information for other students. One student smelled earthy and brown to several of us, for instance. Another was blue and smelled of water.
What does a person’s aura show?
There are several elements to be aware of when you look at an aura, in terms of understanding the meaning of what you’re seeing or sensing.
Color and clarity – What are the colors of the aura? Are they bright and vibrant or dull? How clear are the colors?
Location and shape – Where do you see certain colors in the aura? Colors (and their corresponding clarity and vibrance) may relate either to the adjacent physical areas or to the chakras associated with those body parts (e.g. third-eye chakra around the head, root chakra around the pelvis and hips)
Consistency and spikes – Is the energy or color spiky or smooth? This is an indication as to overall health in those areas of the body.
Seeing your own aura
If you’d like to see your own aura, find a mirror in a well lit room with a light colored background.
Focus on one side of your head or on your third eye.
Relax your eyes while maintaining focus on the same spot.
You can also do this exercise with your hand, holding it over a plain background and looking just slightly to one side of your thumb.
Feeling your aura
This exercise will allow you to feel your aura and its electromagnetic energy.
Rub your palms together vigorously for 10-20 seconds.
Hold your palms facing toward each other, about two inches apart.
Focus your attention on the feeling in your hands. Can you feel the energy moving between your palms?
You can also practice seeing your aura by looking at the space between your palms.
Now slowly move your palms further apart until you no longer feel the connection of your aura between your palms.
What do aura colors mean?
Aura colors aren’t quite as simple as: Red means anger. Red can also mean independence, or it can indicate inflammation of the body part it appears near. So, feel free to look up general color symbolism, but also use your intuition to discern what different colors mean.
In general, the clearer, brighter and more vibrant an aura is, the better the person (or plant or pet) is doing. A vibrant aura indicates clear energy, without a lot of junk (negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, subconscious blocks, damaging habits or behaviors).
A uniform aura indicates a healthy and balanced body. Whereas, areas of spikes or holes show where there may be physical discomfort or disease.
Remember that auras change over time and are affected by many things, including how we’re feeling, temporary illnesses and how well we slept the night before. So if your aura isn’t as smooth or vibrant as you’d like, don’t worry.
Spirit often brings you messages in the form of symbols. These symbols can be anything – the smell of a rose, seeing a dragonfly alight on a bush, or a snatch of music.
Sometimes these symbols are obvious — the words to a song that are clearly a message for you. But often they’re not. Which means you need to figure out just what they mean in order to understand and make sure of the message that’s coming to you from your loved one, your higher self or your guides.
My first symbol dictionary.
Just how do you do that?
Well, every teacher I’ve had and all the books I’ve ready about working with spiritual symbols have instructed me to create my own symbol dictionary. And I’ve tried.
I have dutifully dedicated notebooks intended to contain all the symbols that Spirit brought to me, along with the meanings that I derived intuitively.
Because that’s something you may not know — what a certain symbol means to someone else, may not be the meaning you have for it.
Your own personal symbols
You can look up the traditional or archetypal meanings to thousands of symbols in dream and psychic dictionaries. And there are some good ones out there. The Book of Psychic Symbols and Animal Speak are both excellent references.
But even those books will tell you that you need to find your own personal meanings of the symbols that Spirit brings you.
Most folks recommend starting a journal, dedicating it to spiritual symbols, and writing things down as they come. I did this, too. Here’s the problem.
Organizing your symbol definitions
I earnestly started a symbol dictionary journal with the best of intentions. I wrote down all the colors I could think of, then definitions for each (while asking my intuition for information).
I worked on it for about 3 weeks. Then I abandoned it and never filled in anymore.
I couldn’t find anything. And, even though in the very front of the journal I wrote, “I will not worry if it is neat or organized, but will give what I get and trust in Spirit along the way,” I knew that once I’d filled out a few more pages, I wouldn’t be able to easily find the meaning of each symbol. So I stopped using it.
That was in 2004.
Fast forward 12 years and, during meditation, I was struck with the inspiration to create a spiritual symbols workbook, organizing all the different categories of symbols and listing them alphabetically — much like the good psychic symbol dictionaries. But you get to fill in your own personal definition for each symbol.
It contains 284 pages with more than 1,500 common spiritual, intuitive and psychic symbols encompassing everything from nature and plants to food, buildings, clothing, and different archetypes of people. Everything that Spirit uses to communicate with you for your highest good.
There are also instructions on how to use the workbook as well as some suggested ways of meditating, to get into that quiet place within so you can hear your inner, intuitive voice.
A sample page from The Spiritual Symbols Workbook.
It may take the same amount of work as using a blank journal to learn about your own meanings to the symbols you receive, but it’s so much easier to then find the definitions you’ve written down. Plus, having all the categories and symbols in front of you may spark your intuition and give you definitions for symbols you hadn’t yet considered. And, if you ever forget what category a symbol falls under, or can’t find it to begin with, there’s an index in the back so you can easily find the page that it’s on.
I’m really excited about it and would love to know what you think of it. So, if you buy a copy, please leave me a review on Amazon (it’s the best way to get the word out to others) and let me know how it’s working for you.
You’re probably already familiar with spoon bending — the ability to bend spoons (or other cutlery) with your mind or less physical force than would seem normally necessary. But, if you’re like me until a few months ago, you may not have tried it or even know how it works.
I remember visiting the Lily Dale Museum in the Spiritualist Community of Lily Dale, NY, years ago when I first began studying Spiritualism and mediumship. Among other things, they had twirled up spoons and forks on display as a manifestation of the power of Spirit. I bought one as a souvenir. I still have it.
But I never tried it for myself until recently.
My first spoon bending attempt
A local Spiritual friend and colleague, Miche Meizner, started teaching spoon bending recently. I watched her videos explaining the process and gave it a try. The spoon bent, using less force than seemed like it would be necessary, but I was a little disappointed in the result. I consoled myself with the knowledge that the spoon was a thick one, just about impossible to bend using normal means without damaging my hands (I know because I tried it).
Successful spoon bending selfie
Then I went to a spoon bending demonstration Miche gave at a CUUPs event in March and brought my kids along. We all bent spoons. Mine even twirled. It was great to see the kids experience the shift in energy that happens right when the spoon gets soft and pliable and easy to bend.
This is what my 10-year-old son had to say about it:
At first, it was difficult and frustrating because I couldn’t do it. But then as soon as I did it once, it felt like I could do it another time and another time and another time and it was really fun. It was easy once you started.
It felt like a hard object at first before I bent the spoon. Then as I bent the spoon it felt 20 times weaker and then it just went flop and I could bend it.
I felt very accomplished.
How do you do spoon bending
There are several methods you can use to bend spoons. The most important thing is to get out of your own way and allow it to happen.
First, get a spoon you don’t mind bending. I like to go to thrift stores and buy spoons and forks. Choose a spoon that’s not so thin and weak you can easily bend it with just muscle strength, but not so incredibly thick that you need some kind of machinery to bend it (the name of which currently escapes me).
Find a comfortable spot in your house or apartment. Take a deep breath in. Now let it out. Focus your energy and attention.
Know that only your highest and best good will come to you. 🙂 Set your intention. “I can bend this spoon.”
Hold the spoon in both your hands. Flex it a little and feel the natural resistance of the metal.
You’ll know your spoon is ready to bend when it feels pliable. The metal will soften and become like taffy. Ever seen hard candy being made? When it’s at a certain temperature, it’s soft and pliable, able to be stretched. But when it cools, it sets, becoming hard. The spoon will feel like that. It’ll get soft for a moment or two, maybe a few seconds, then it’ll firm up again.
Counting (and breathing)
Decide that, when you get to your fifth exhale, the spoon is going to bend for you.
Inhale 1. Exhale.
Inhale 2. Exhale.
Inhale 3. Exhale.
Inhale 4. Exhale.
Inhale 5. Exhale, applying a little pressure to the spoon. It’s ready to bend when it feels pliable and soft. If it doesn’t want to give, that’s OK. Keep breathing. If it does bend, keep bending and twisting it for as long as it feels soft. Then stop and take a look.
Some people like to command the spoon to bend. As you hold the spoon and breathe, say, “Bend, spoon, Bend!” You can repeat this several times until the spoon becomes pliable.
You can also try jumping up and down to raise your energy. Or even shouting. (I don’t like shouting at spoons myself, but it works for some folks.)
Singing to the spoon
Do you know the tune, “Sun, sun, Mr. golden sun, please shine down on me?” Sometimes I like to sing to my spoon: “Spoon, spoon, happy Mr. spoon, please will you bend for me?”
It sounds ridiculous, but it works. The combination of song and the silliness of it raises my vibration (and that of the spoon) and distracts me enough to allow the spoon to bend.
Realize that everything is energy
My most successful way of bending spoons is knowing that everything in this world is made up of energy. It just vibrates at different frequencies. The spoon is more solid than me. But it doesn’t have to be. People in Spirit are less solid than me, but I raise the frequency of my vibration (and my intuitive senses) to be able to sense them and communicate with them (and in turn, they do some work on their end).
Hold the spoon in both hands.
Become aware of the energy of your own body. Feel the energy of your aura, right around your body, extending out from you just a little.
Extend your energy to the spoon. Allow the spoon to become infused with your energy.
Know that we are all one, from the same source energy, all connected.
Know that just as you can bend the fingers of your hand, so too can you bend the spoon. Imagine it as part of your body, part of your hand.
Give it a test, then, when it feels soft, bend it.
Why would you want to bend spoons?
OK, so spoons get soft and pliable and you can bend them with less than the normal amount of strength it would seem to require. So what? Why would anyone want to do this?
Spoon bending does a few things for me:
It helps me focus my energy. I can only bend spoons when I’m in a quiet, focused frame of mind.
It reminds me that we’re all energy and that all energy is connected.
I feel connected to Spirit.
It makes me ponder what else is possible. When I’m having a hard moment or something feels too difficult to surmount, I look at my twisted up cutlery and think, “Huh, well, that wasn’t impossible. I did that. I can do this too.”
As my then-8-year-old daughter said:
It felt really really good. It felt like I was lifted from everything bad. It felt like great amazingness when I was in the process of bending it.
Here’s a short video explaining the methods of bending spoons.